For a happy life – Break the routine Girls!

I hear a lot of stories from my colleagues and friends in routine life and how bored they are with what they do. Today before I share with you some ideas on how to make your hectic routine into a comfortable and likable one, I would like to share with you what one of my married friends said about her routine from breakfast to dinner. 

She asked for our help in changing her routine and her bored mindset before sharing her story. She started her story with a punch \”A man’s day would start with just a bed coffee but a woman\’s day starts with millions of thoughts and plans for running the household.\”

\”I always wake up weak in the morning and yearn for a little more sleep. I even use the snooze option twice or thrice to delay my day by 10 or 15 minutes. I freshen up with sleep still in my eyes and I boil the milk, make a cup of coffee and wake my husband.\”

We were looking at her amusingly when we knew the same happens with almost every one of us. 

She continued, \”I use the snooze feature on my mobile, but, my husband uses me instead. It is only after three attempts, he wakes up and smiles at me and utter the magic words, \”Coffee?\”. Few times, I felt like pouring the hot liquid over him but, my love on him controls me and also, saves him daily.\”

We laughed at her words and she continued even more of her rants, \”He gets his favorite coffee in bed and drinking the same and giving me the usual appreciation of how great the coffee is, he starts scrolling his phone for useless notifications and relevant news irrelevant to our daily life. I then make the crucial decision of the day and decide the breakfast and lunch and prepare the same.\” 

\”As time passes by, I get pressurized more than the pressure cooker. It’s a daily occurrence to get ready in a hurry and I swear for the infinite time to get ready early and start to office in time tomorrow. Once my husband is ready, we have breakfast. I eat breakfast walking here and there, packing my bags, putting things in place whereas my husband reads the magazine or watches TV and eats the breakfast. We rush to the office and on the way, he as usual swears at the traffic and stress on the importance of road sense in India as in the west, which I hear partially, as I think about the works pending at the office.\”

\”Finally, I reach the office and try hard to keep a graceful smile in spite of the completely different set of responsibilities and tasks at hand here. I do the work, have coffee with friends and laugh at the silly jokes, which keeps me happy and tension-free most of the times.\”

\”In the evening,  it’s the time to return to the homemaker mode. On the way back, I need to make another crucial decision of what to make for dinner. When I enter the home, I am very hungry, I expect a plate with food, just eat and sleep but what I see is empty home with empty vessels. As I decide and make dinner, I call my parents, in-laws and update that we are very fine, happy and enjoying the life as we know the only expectation from them is our happiness.\”

\”He arrives late as usual and gives me the same reason as usual. Then, we have dinner at 10, when all my hunger has already vanished. I wash the vessels hearing some silly TV show and let out the energy gained through dinner, whereas, my better half watches tv and then goes to sleep scrolling the phone in his bed. I again clean the house, keep things in the place, get ready for the next day of my hectic and monotonous life.\”

Every one of us laughed and clapped by the way she narrated the story. But the sad fact is that most of the women spend their daily routine the way she said including me and my friends for the most part of life as a working woman.

When we are better-read and earning equal to our better-halves, isn\’t it a grave sin to still expect us to be the perfect homemaker?

When we are learning to see the world the same way men see the world, aren\’t it supposed to be the same for men and is it not their duty to learn household chores along with us and help us in the same?

It is nothing wrong to ask help from our partner and sharing our day to day activities. Previously, we had only men working and women helping them at homes, but, as times change, it isn\’t a mistake to share the household chores and help each other. 

If your better-half is not interested in helping you in the same, then, make sure you find the alternate way, like employing a housemaid if possible. 

Also, cooking takes up more than 50% of our time at home and when the hotels are in a rise and cooking maids are easy to employ, reduce cooking time and increase your \”ME time\”. 

Learn something new. Research something new. Write, sing, draw, dance, act or develop. Do something that pleases you and gives you a satisfaction.

Obtain a passion or multiple passions with which you can equip yourselves. Also, make money your last aim of life. Saving money today for a better life tomorrow, so, no maid, no cook, no hotels were the stupid policy people followed and I\’ve read a wonderful line for those who still think the same way.

We, women, have strong will power, capability and stamina to do multiple things at a time. All the beautiful women out there, just understand that we are capable enough to do anything, but we need to put our efforts in the right way and direct ourselves in the right direction, which not only gives happiness to our family but to us personally, which is the most important thing in life – \”Self-satisfaction\”.

Some may be blessed with the family and importantly, a better-half, who understands these concepts and some may not be, it is in your hands to convince people what you really are and what you really want to be. 

Remember once again, \”When you are old and tired, you do not worry about the things you did, but, you worry about the things you didn\’t do\”.